Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Seaside Part 2 - Purgatory

Read Part 1 Here

Seaside is the largest tournament in North America, maybe the world, with over 120 courts and 900 teams competing on the Oregon coast. Teams come from neighboring California and Washington as well as Canada, Arizona, Idaho, Minnesota, and just about anywhere else in the US. Old friends and partners, now separated by work, family, and life rejoin to "run it" once more. The tourney features every type of division you can imagine. Father and child, coed-4s, reverse masters, Under 14, Under 18, etc. But as everyone knows, the real show is Men's doubles.

I’d been fairly disciplined about getting adequate training, rest, & nutrition during the summer. I had been sleeping well and avoiding stress or late nights. However, in early August I started experiencing periodic nights of sleeplessness. I get brief periods of insomnia every couple of years. It seems to come and go with no rhyme or reason. They say it’s caused by stress but I hadn’t been feeling all that stressed out. The summer had been fun and stress free. I would often go to bed with an empty mind but sometimes wake up around 3:00 am with my mind busy thinking about random unimportant things, unable to fall back asleep. Bareq had given me some Tylenol PM when I had trouble sleeping in Greece and it seemed to help a lot. However, it did very little to help me the night before our departure to Seaside. I took two of those little bastards and still didn’t get any sleep. When I got up in the morning I felt 10 times worse than if I had just stayed awake all night. A small sense of dread and panic was starting to prick at me. What if I can’t sleep tonight? What if I have to play like this? How bad am I going to suck?

I picked up Khasha around noon and then picked Matty up at the airport on our way south. I had a headache and felt foggy the entire day. Khasha’s voice was getting on my nerves even though I don’t think he was all that different than usual. I felt like crap until we checked in and hit the beach for a brief practice. Once I started running on the beach the fog lifted and I felt better. We played a few practice games against some other GG players and quit around 7:00 pm.

We hit the town for groceries and a quick dinner and went back to our hotel. Matt went up to Khasha’s room to watch a movie while I read “Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas” by Hunter S. Thompson. After a few minutes of reading I took 1 Tylenol PM, had a cup of Mullein tea, promptly went to bed, and got exactly ZERO sleep. The night was one long torturous session of tossing and turning and dreading the sunrise.

When I finally got out of bed to get ready I felt terrible. My brain was in a deep fog and my limbs felt like Jell-O. I had some oatmeal and a banana. We hit the players meeting at center court at 8:30. I checked out the tournament board and noticed we were seeded 17th out of 59 teams despite having accrued no points the past summer. I chalked this up to my points from the Alki tourney the previous summer or the fact that the board director used to play against Matt and I waaaaaaaay back in the day and labored under the illusion that we were still decent. We had a good chuckle about the low rank and name of the other team (seed 48 - Batman & Robin). Even laughing hurt my head. The smiles slowly faded from our faces once we saw the other team already warming up as we approached our court. I had to double check the court number just to make sure we were at the right one. Standing there, next to his very normal looking partner, was one of the tallest monstrosities I’ve ever seen on a beach court. We both exchanged whispered exclamations with each other but didn’t let our surprise show when we introduced ourselves and shook hands with Batman and Robin. They seemed like nice enough guys and they were both attending Seattle U where I went to grad school. Once the tall guy and Matt went to speak to the ref I casually asked Robin (I think) how tall his partner was. 6’10. I wasn’t surprised. Just to put this in perspective, Phil Dalhauser is 6’9. Not saying this kid had the same skills, but I’m just sayin’.

We got off to a terrible start. I just couldn’t pass for shit. No mater how hard I tried I could not shake off the compounding effect of multiple sleepless nights and the sleep meds still in my system. I’d been passing well during the summer, sometimes going several days without shanking a single pass. But today I was a disaster. We lost the first game swiftly but got off to a 10-4 lead in the second game (best of 3 format). An even bigger surprise was the fact that the smaller payer on the other team was the one carrying them. The big boy was not as much of a threat as we thought although you had to be careful hitting against his blocks and he swatted down a couple of my high line shots which I thought I had rolled high enough to be out of reach. Soon enough the wind picked up and I went back to crap. I must have easily had 4 or 5 botched passes that game. The final score was close but we lost the 2nd game and hence the match. We were now in the loser’s bracket.

I felt so ashamed about the way I was playing. I had just assumed that with the great summer I’d had and the fact that the sand is a little more packed and the nets a little lower at Seaside that I would be playing off the chain. But insomnia and the wind had really kicked my ass. I was embarrassed about all those phone calls I made to Matty driving home from the beach every day. Telling him about how well I was playing and hounding him to hit the beach and get his ass in shape so he wouldn’t drag me down. But now I was the anchor. The big, heavy, slow, uncoordinated anchor.

After the loss I took pictures of Khasha & Sophy and Keith & Troys games. Khasha & Sophy played very athletic and hustled well. Keith & Troy played Anthony Medel on center court. They pushed the 2nd game into overtime which is a great accomplishment against a legit AVP pro. Like Matt and I, they hadn’t played together all summer. I don’t think Keith had even played/practiced more than 3 times the whole summer.

The one upside to our loss was that it put us in a bracket that didn’t play again ‘til 4:30 p.m. This long break gave me time to wake up, get my head straight, and get the sleep meds out of my system. Our 4:30 game was against Vu and Harley, both very good longtime friends of ours. Halrey had been a V-Ball coach and Vu was a legend on the grass circuit back in the day. Matt and I used to watch and admire his high-flying partnership with Thoeum in the 90’s. He was the one who encouraged Matt and I to play in our first tourney. He said we’d be good. I recall one summer when Vu never lost a game at Greenlake no matter who he played with. Finally, Bareq broke that streak against me and someone I can’t recall and I gave him so much shit for it. “You just lost with Vu! You understand what that means? NOBODY loses with Vu. You’ll be rolling around in bed all night thinking about how YOU LOST WITH VU!” So naturally, if you’d told me back then that someday Matt and I would beat him in a tourney I’d say you were smoking crack.

We put them away easily the first game. My passing was solid again and I was able to chase down and scoop up almost every ball they hit at us. Matty was setting better too, probably since I was giving him better balls to work with. But like most smart veterans they changed their tactics in the 2nd game and kept it close. Vu got his jumpserve going and aced Matty down his line a couple of times and Harley dialed in his one foot chip shot which left me faceplanted in the sand. We had them down 20 to 18 and ready to put the nail in the coffin but another Ace by Vu and an over set by Matt tied us up at 20. I sided out and got a dig for the next 2 points and sealed the deal but I was a little peeved about how close we let the 2nd game get. I gave Vu a big hug.

Our next game came up immediately. We were instructed to go to court X and play the winner right away. Matt & Mark. Twins from Portland. We were watching them finish their match knowing that we’d play the winner and they looked horrible. Part of me was giddy inside at the prospect of getting such an easy team handed to us at this point in the tourney. But the other part of me was scared. And the deamon was whispering in my ear. “If you lose to these guys then you’re seriously terrible.”

The first game actually started close. But I got in a good jumpserve rhythm and Matt got his nasty floatys going. They couldn’t handle the heaters or the moving targets and we pulled away for an easy win. That first game ended on a bit of controversy. I gave Matt ridiculous chowder set and opened my mouth to call my own hands out of habit but quickly realized that we’re in a tourney and that’s what the ref is for. So instead I yelled “Bad … Line” and Matt crushed it. The other team was looking at me like WTF? I pointed to the ref. He said the set was fine. I felt like an asshole. Even Matt was not feeling me on that move. But I was not in a generous mood. The universe had already conspired against me with the insomnia and I wasn’t giving shit away for free. I stuck to my guns and the game was over. The combination of the swift spanking and one of the players being double booked in the mens’ and coed divisions resulted in a forfeit of the 2nd game and with that we won our 3rd match of the day. We were done. We lived to fight another day. 8:30 am the next morning to be exact. Ouch!

Making it to the 2nd day is always a primary goal for most mid-level teams. It means you didn’t get wiped out too fast and basically just prolongs the tourney experience. Downside is you get one less night of partying. Khasha joined us for a dip in the ocean and then I took some pictures of Thoeum and Kyles last game during the sunset. Thoeum was on some serious pain meds and Kyle was on blocking strike. The other team was a couple of big hammers and they really hit some heavy balls. Kyle and Thoeums aspirations retired with the sun. They were out and it was getting dark. We grabbed dinner and breakfast for the next day at the store. Even Matt was too tired to do anything but eat and shower. We both hit the sack early. I had my fingers crossed, hoping to finally get some sleep for the first time in 72 hours.

To be continued ...

Read Part 3 Here

Friday, September 10, 2010

Halo Reach

So a while back I posted a touching trailer for Gears of War 2.  However, it looks like this trailer from Halo Reach has outdone the former on the "tear jerker" scale.  As a bonus I've also a clip from last night.



Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Auto Tune the News

For all you people who give guys like T-Pain, Lil' Wayne, and the rest of the auto tune children a little too much credit, I just want to show you how just about any dialogue can be turned into music.

This first news clip is entertaining enough by itself.  Check it out and then check out the remix below.  After that, a cute little bonus clip.

Original News Clip:


The Remix:


Bonus Clip:

More quality time with my new friends

Seaside Part 1 - Once More Into The Breach

I took my bruises, took my lumps
Fell down and I got right back up
But I need that spark to get psyched back up
In order for me to pick a mic back up

I don't know how or why or when
I ended up in this position I'm in
I'm starting to feel distant again
So I decided just to pick this pen
Up and try to make an attempt
to vent but I just can't admit
Or come to grips with the fact
that I may be done rhymin’
I may need a new outlet

And I know some shit's so hard to swallow
But I can't just sit back and wallow
In my own sorrow
but I know one fact
I'll be one tough act to follow
Here today, gone tomorrow

- Eminem



There was no mistaking it. My customized Google news page was trying to tell me something.

Beach Volleyball – Remove

It was giving me the option to remove the beach volley section from my news page. But why? And why did none of the other news sections offer this option? World, US, Sports, Health, Sci/ Tech, Football, Video Games, … they were all on the list. But only Beach Volley had the “Remove” link in front of it. Was this due to the AVP’s recent bankruptcy? Did Google know about my miserable performance at the Seaside tourney? Or was this just a sign from God? And if so, why in the world would I, for even one second, consider taking it seriously?

I sip coffee next to my office window, watch traffic on Airport Road, and reflect on the past decade. How did I get here?



10 years ago I was driving down that same road in a mad rush to Greenlake with R2D2 by George Acosta bumpin’ in my Jeep, trying to beat the Boeing rush hour before getting stuck in traffic or losing the best courts to some hacks. Matty would be meeting me there and we’d soon set up the yellow Jose` Cuervo net, crank up the house anthems on the boombox, and take on all comers. And you best not chip or try that finess crap on our net or you’d swiftly be escorted out by security. Athletes only. THIS - IS - JOSE` !!! But that was a long time ago. Matty moved away and I have since switched to playing in the sand to spare my back and knees further agony. Chips and finesse is all I have left now. But the beach games not all that bad. In fact, the lifestyle is right up my alley.

Something about being at the beach fills me with joy. Life is simple at the beach. People are generally nice. On the weekends, when I take the kids to my games, long after the players have gassed out and the nets have come down, I stay on the beach with the kids. We bump the ball around and play other games they invent on the spot. Sometimes we walk down to the end of the beach, exploring for shells and other sea life. I am whole on the sand. No shirt. No Shoes. No problems. And when I bring the kids home and wash those black streaks off their faces and bellies in the tub as they giggle and shampoo each others hair, laughing at their shampoo Mohawks, I lay on the bathroom floor with icepacks on my shoulder, back, and knees and I feel like the best dad in the world.

I sometimes jokingly refer to volleyball as “my job” and my actual job as “that other thing I do for money”. I don’t know how sane or healthy it is to think this way for someone in my position. I just know that it makes me happy. But the sport is not all roses and groovy vibes. It can be scary and, at times, haunting. One of those very rare sports with 2-man teams. You don't have the security and anonymity of large team sports. I remember feeling safe in the huddle. 10 other guys all seeing and feeling the same thing as you. You also don't have the freedom and guilt-free independence of individual sports. Despite being competitive in track and swimming, even the worst performance didn't bother me for very long. My results were mine and mine alone. No one else cared or suffered from my shortcomings and I was comfortable with that. But there was also no one to share the highs with. I think that might be why I always had a stronger passion for relay races. Sharing the race with 3 other guys gave it value and excitement.

But volleyball ... you MUST have chemistry. You must know your partners tendencies. You gotta feel him. The 2 man dynamic is very intense. You're basically the entire rest of the team for your partner. If he's playing well and you're still losing it's all on you. There's no coach, no substitute, no place to hide. This sport is not for mental midgets. It will test your will, your endurance, your focus, your character, and most importantly your heart. The winningest team at the beach where I train is a pair of 40 somethings. They’re unassuming enough and do not appear highly athletic. When separated, they're as beatable as the rest of us. But put them together, in a serious game, and none of the krafty*1 veterans or high-flying youth can touch them.

This is the chemistry that Matt and I shared in our 20’s. We consistently beat more experienced and athletic teams by virtue of our chemistry and conditioning. But that was a long time ago. Ten years, a shoulder surgery, a knee surgery, 2 compressed discs, infinite pulled or torn muscles, 2 kids, 2 mortgages, and 2 weddings have come and gone (well … not entirely gone) between the two of us. To say that we’re mere shadows of our former selves would be an understatement.

During the prior Fall and Winter, as I was rehabbing my back with poor results and the situation seemed dire, I made a decision that if I could just get back to playing the game for fun I’d be grateful. I didn’t care about tournaments, competition, or winning anymore. I just wanted to play again. I wanted to do it for the same reasons I started playing in the first place. Reasons which I had gradually forgotten. Sometimes the love of the game and joy of playing with your friends takes a back seat to things like winning, points, rankings, and in the case of the truly talented, money. I'd been on both side of this equation. Like most I started playing the game for fun. Something you do with your friends. Gradually, if you manage to get better and retain your passion for the game, the circle of people you want to play with and against shrinks. You have no time to waste on beginners and hacks. Forgetting that you yourself were once a young hack. Forgetting that if it wasn't for the kind and generous nature of the veterans that came before you, the ones who took you under their wing and taught you the game instead of pointing you to the lower courts, you still might be a hack.

Eventually, there's only a group of 20 or so people which you want to play with. The problem is that you will most likely not share much in common with them on a personal level. Sure you both play the same sport but the likelihood that you’d have really close personal friends in this circle is low. I'd placed 9th out of 56 teams at seaside a few years ago with James in my pre-spinal days. The relationship between James and I could be called formal at best. Although immensely talented, James was an introvert by nature, and what most would consider "Humorless". I honestly don't think I ever heard him laugh although he did crack a few smiles or occasionally raise his voice in a heated match, "NICE SHOT PARTNER !!!" We were relatively successful but I wasn't playing with my friends anymore. Since Matt moved to SanDiego I'd been a bit of a volleyball slut, playing with whoever was stupid or desperate enough to play with a beat-up 5-9er on the wrong side of 30.

At some point in the summer, shortly after we returned from Colin’s wedding in Greece, Matt brought up the idea to play together at Seaside. “I just wanna come up and see the fellas and play some games together”. Several players had already asked me to play at Seaside with them but I said I wasn't healthy enough to train properly for tournament level play (nor did I care to) but when Matty asked I couldn’t say no. He insisted that it was my idea and that I brought it up in Greece when we were playing quite a bit (almost every other day) but frankly I don’t recall that conversation. But I did recall that we played well together and my back wasn’t hurting much anymore. I had discovered a warmup routine that seemed to manage my back pain while also providing endless jabs and humiliation from the boys at the beach. I basically had to hump the sand in various positions for about 30 minutes and I’d be good to go. Ofcourse not a day went by that I didn’t have to hear some crack about “sand babies”, “Jane Fonda”, “Humping the sky”, “Kiegel Excercises”, “Putting my back into it”, “Respecting the family beach”, etc. from the guys.

So now my old compadre was asking me to play with him again. I had logged a lot of pain-free hours on the sand during the summer and felt very confident. And to be honest, I was excited to hit the trenches one more time.

To be continued …

Read Part 2 Here



*1 Misspelling intentional.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Buzz Kill Nation

Sometimes when I'm finishing a late sunset ball session at the beach I may have a beer or two before I head home. I can't begin to recall how many times I've been pulled over by the Bothell-MillCreek police driving home late at night. Shirtless, middle-aged, male in Yellow xTerra. Usually for something lame like doing 48 in a 35 or some silly shit like that. The conversation is always the same.

Hands on 10 & 2. Cops like seeing your hands. It disarms them. Be calm but concise.

"Good evening. You know why I pulled you over?"

"No sir."

"You were blah blah blah"

"hmmm ... fair enough" (you can see him relax a little)

"License and registration please."

"May I reach in the glove box sir." (always ask permission, they love it)

"Yes"

I get out the paperwork but leave the glove box open. Shows you have nothing to hide.

"Here you go sir."

He briefly glances at the documents.

"You live here in Bothell?"

"Yes sir. About a mile North of here by Mays Pond."

"Where are you coming from?"

"I was playing volleyball at Golden Gardens."

"What is that? A restaurant?"

"No sir. It's a beach near Ballard."

"Have you had any Alcohol tonight?"

"Yes. I had one beer after I finished playing … about an hour ago."

If you have ANY alcohol in your system you must tell the truth. Not necessarily about the amount but just the fact that you had a drink. If you say no and they make you blow it will show that you lied and everything will be a worst case scenario after that.

"Just one?"

"Yes sir."

"Would you be willing to do a voluntary roadside sobriety test"

I always agree to this because A) I know my BAC is below the legal limit and B) I kill these tests.

I know how these things work but I need to feign a little bit of ignorance to come off authentic.

"No problem. Do you need me to blow in something?"

"No I just need you to step out of the vehicle and perform some tests for me."

"May I step out now?"

"Yes follow me."

I follow him to the back of the car. This part is a little embarrassing. Shirtless men driving around after dark in Bothell on a March evening are non-existent. Show me one, covered in sand, barefoot, and doing a sobriety test for cops on the side of the road and I'll show you a less than confident character. I just hope the neighbors don't drive by.

He proceeds to ask me to do some silly shit I could do in my sleep like stand on one foot, walk a certain way, or follow some light with my eye without moving my head. The trick to this last one is that he will intentionally move the light outside of your peripheral vision. When he does that, keep your head steady and keep your eyes at the limit of their peripheral range. You're no longer be focused on the light and he knows this but that's OK. Just don't move your head.

As I'm standing there, usually on one foot, I'm thinking "Do you know what I do? Do you know where I just came from? Do you know I just spent the last 6 hours performing acts of balance and coordination infinitely more difficult than the crap you're asking me to do right now?"

Ofcourse I don't ask these questions because I know that he, like the rest of America, has no idea. Naturally, I nail the test.

"You said one beer right?"

"Yes sir."

"How big was the beer?"

"Standard." (slight smirk, only if the cop is cool)

"Please return to your vehicle. I'll be with you in a moment."

I sit in my car and check my pulse just for shits and giggles. 54. About 10 beats above my resting rate but still pretty good considering the circumstances.

He comes back with my license and no ticket.

"Here you go man. Watch your speed."

"Thank you sir."

I take the "Man" in his last exchange to mean: "You're a cool guy. I wish everyone we pulled over was like you." Of course, I'm just guessing here.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

What I loved about Greece

I loved our hotel in Athens and the fact that for 3 days nothing went wrong, everyone got along, and all coincidences were fortuitous.


I loved Parissa beach in Santorini. Black sand, legit volleyball court surrounded by beach beds and the sickest beats on the island. Khasha blossomed into a veteran baller. B-Sack and Keith came out of retirement. Matt and I regulated like rough riders. The girls danced on the bar.




I loved Colin and Gayle's wedding. It was amazingly beautiful. Took place in the picturesque city on Oia above the oceanside cliffs.



I loved driving nothing but a quad my whole time in Mykonos and getting lost with Matty at sunset. Superparadise. Watching the sun go down over the mountains with Jen and then getting on the quad and and climbing the mountain only to watch it go down again over the ocean with Mack driving in front of us and Matt and Diane behind us. 




MEEEEEKOOOOONOOOOOOOOS!!!!





I loved Panoramous beach where the owner had set up the sickest beach bar and super legit v-ball court. A huge v-ball fan, he was so stoked to have 3 legit ballers to play with that he fully VIP'd us. Matty and I barely got by on him and Khasha in a best of 5 series. 3-2. Won game 5 in overtime 23-21 with all other games decided by 2 points (the lowest possible margin of victorty in v-ball). On our last day we got toasted on frozen Mojitos and rode our quads home at sunset. Kids, don't try this at home.



I loved that Jen was happy most of the time and had a blast with the girls. The ladies let the guys have their alone time and it was nice. Made the evenings even more romantic.


Tuesday, June 15, 2010

My Speech at Colin's Wedding

Colin's wedding in Santorini, Greece was absolutely epic. I'll be posting a brief trip blog shortly and photos can be found at My Shutterfly Page. Here's my speech:



I think I can speak for everyone when I say thanks to Colin and Gayle for picking such a fantastic place to get married. It has provided us with the impetus to take a great vacation with great friends. I always love that about destination weddings.

I want to start by telling you guys a little story about the night Colin and Gayle met. We were at a Sushi place for a friend’s birthday. I think it was either Paul or Dallas. I can’t remember. We’re seated at several small tables and Colin and I end up sharing a table with Chris Borsheim. At some point during dinner I go to the bathroom. When I come back, I notice that Liz and some stunning blond bombshell have taken my seat. They quickly apologized and offered to get up and give me my seat back. Of course being the perceptive and dedicated wingman that I pride myself to be, I thought to myself “there is no way I’m letting this beauty leave Colin’s side”. I declined and insisted that the stay there since I wanted to catch up with folks at the other tables anyway.

And the rest, as they say, is history. So all you guys having a good time tonight …. you have ME to thank for this trip. Just buy me a drink later and we’ll call it even.

I met Colin in the early 90’s at a number of house parties in the Seattle area. We had some friends in common and Colin seemed like he was always happy and excited to be out. He remembered my name and we chatted a few times. I recall one night he got stuck at a party with no ride so I drove him to the next venue and we chatted on the way. I really got to like him after that drive.

A few years later we found ourselves involved in a small group of young entrepreneurs. We spent a few years trying to patent an invention and bring a new product to market. And although the entire venture failed gloriously, the experience allowed us to spend a lot of time together and brought us closer.

I was pretty burned out on trying to get rich by the end of that ordeal and wanted to get back to sports, travel, and enjoying life in general. Colin had just moved to my neighborhood and suggested we should work out together. For the next few years we worked out together at least 5 days a week. It was very therapeutic to see a close friend every day and bond over the course of hard work. We were sober, lucid, and traversed vast intellectual terrains during those workouts. We also got in the best shape of our lives because we looked forward to every workout and pushed each other. We were so active and busy at that time. It seems like there were a couple of summers where we were out of town on one adventure or another almost every weekend. Every month or so would consist of events that by today’s standards would be the highlight of the entire year.

Throughout these adventures, one of the traits I came to admire and love most about Colin was his ability to actually enjoy adversity. Weather it’s a highly unsafe and life threatening climb, or getting lost in the rain forest, or careening down a class 5 rapid … The harsher the conditions the bigger the smile on his face.

There is aquote, by Jackson Brown of all people, that goes something like:
"Our character is what we do when no one is looking."

And I gotta admit … as much as it drives me crazy sometimes, Colin is precisely the type of guy who always does the right thing even when no one is looking. We could be 20 miles from the closest sign of civilization and he’ll get on your ass for leaving a candy wrapper on the forest floor or not burying your poop.

Now I must admit, I got along fairly well with the last couple of girls that Colin dated and I would get a little bummed whenever those relationships ended. Some of them were cool girls and at times I would wonder if Colin really knew what he wanted. I wondered if he, perhaps, had some impossibly high or unreasonable standards or if the perfect girl for him even existed.

Well, it turns out that he DID know what he was doing and although his standards were high, they were also wise. Gayle, I liked those other girls a lot … but, sweetheart, they can’t even hold a candle to you. You are wonderful and I’m so glad I gave up my seat that night at the sushi joint.

You know traditionally, part of a wedding speech involves dispensing advice to the bride and groom. Especially when the speaker’s been married for close to a decade himself.

So here it goes ….. DON’T DO IT !!!!!!

But seriously, you guys seem to have such a healthy and well balanced relationship that I honestly can’t think of any advice that would be genuine.

I guess the one thing I can say is no matter how stressful life becomes remember to be honest with each other. Remember, that you’re on the same team. You can be the shoulder the other relies on or the arm that cuts them down. There’s nothing worse than dreading your own home life. Make your home a warm and safe heaven where you can escape the life’s trials and tribulations.

Remember that if you ever put your marital problems on the back burner they are sure to boil over.

When Riley was born, there were 4 people waiting outside the delivery room. My parents, my brother, and Colin. And I gotta tell you … I can’t wait until the day that I get to rush to the hospital and hold that little d’Hondt in my arms. Colin, I’m honored to be your friend and proud to be by your side today.

Let’s raise our glasses to toast the new couple.

Here is to my friend and his lovely bride. May the candle of your love burn brightest in the darkest hours and never flicker in the winds of trial.

To the bride & groom.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

I'll be at your wedding



I'll be at your wedding
you'll be at my funeral
looks like I'll be free from my cubicle
looks like our dreams weren't suitable
but god damn me you're still beautiful


- Ivan Ives


Wednesday, April 14, 2010

E-Mail from Mom

OH, SO NOW YOU GET MAD?!?
We had the eight years of Bush and Cheney, now you get mad!

You didn't get mad when the Supreme Court stopped a legal recount and appointed a President.
You didn't get mad when Cheney allowed Energy company officials to dictate energy policy.
You didn't get mad when a covert CIA operative got ousted.
You didn't get mad when the Patriot Act got passed.
You didn't get mad when we illegally invaded a country that posed no threat to us.
You didn't get mad when we spent over 600 billion(and counting) on said illegal war.
You didn't get mad when over 10 billion dollars just disappeared in Iraq.
You didn't get mad when you found out we were torturing people.
You didn't get mad when the government was illegally wiretapping Americans.
You didn't get mad when we didn't catch Bin Laden.
You didn't get mad when you saw the horrible conditions at Walter Reed.
You didn't get mad when we let a major US city drown.
You didn't get mad when we gave a 900 billion tax break to the rich.
You didn't get mad when, using reconciliation; a trillion dollars of our tax dollars were redirected to insurance companies for Medicare Advantage which cost over 20 percent more for basically the same services that Medicare provides.
You didn't get mad when the deficit hit the trillion dollar mark, and our debt hit the thirteen trillion dollar mark.

You finally got mad when the government decided that people in America deserved the right to see a doctor if they are sick.

Yes, illegal wars, lies, corruption, torture, stealing your tax dollars to make the rich richer, are all okay with you, but helping other Americans ... oh , HELL NO!

Doesn't it seem that something is seriously wrong with the thinking of some Americans?

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Indiscriminate killing by US military.

WikiLeaks has released a classified US military video depicting the indiscriminate slaying of over a dozen people in the Iraqi suburb of New Baghdad -- including two Reuters news staff. Reuters has been trying to obtain the video through the Freedom of Information Act, without success since the time of the attack. The video, shot from an Apache helicopter gun-site, clearly shows the unprovoked slaying of a wounded Reuters employee and his rescuers. Two young children involved in the rescue were also seriously wounded. For further information please visit the special project website http://www.collateralmurder.com/.

Friday, April 2, 2010

Speaking Up

My first protest ever.  Passed out flyers and held signs by King County Courthouse regarding Troys assailants never getting prosecuted despite a long history of violence.  The conditions were harsh, cold, wet, & windy.  Only 10 of us showed up.  I was happy to be there.


To sin by silence, when we should protest,
Makes cowards out of men. The human race
Has climbed on protest. Had no voice been raised
Against injustice, ignorance, and lust,
The inquisition yet would serve the law,
And guillotines decide our least disputes.
The few who dare, must speak and speak again
To right the wrongs of many. Speech, thank God,
No vested power in this great day and land
Can gag or throttle. Press and voice may cry
Loud disapproval of existing ills;
May criticise oppression and condemn
The lawlessness of wealth-protecting laws
That let the children and childbearers toil
To purchase ease for idle millionaires.
Therefore I do protest against the boast
Of independence in this mighty land.
Call no chain strong, which holds one rusted link.
Call no land free, that holds one fettered slave.
Until the manacled slim wrists of babes
Are loosed to toss in childish sport and glee,
Until the mother bears no burden, save
The precious one beneath her heart, until
God’s soil is rescued from the clutch of greed
And given back to labor, let no man
Call this the land of freedom.

— ELLA WHEELER WILCOX

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

The best Facebook political debate ever


By Kelly [Redacted]

So my friend from high school puts this post on his facebook one afternoon and I simply replied to it. My friend is a libertarian, whatever the hell that means, but to me it means it's a party of people that are never going to get elected so therefore they are irrelevant. But anyway, it started off like this. (since my friend deleted this from his wall because it pretty fucking ugly, I had to transcribe this from my phone, luckily I type 80 words a minute.)

Freddie McDonald: Ny Times says today that everything part of this new health care bill is nothing more than a redistribution of wealth! ATT just announced it will lose 1 billion dollars due to health care after it was able to read all of the fine points of the bill. CBO just announced the health care bill will add an extra 9.8 trillion to our defecit over the next 10 years. Don't expect unemployment to go down unless you work for the IRS!

Kelly [Redacted]: Don't you think that that article is a bit inflammatory? I mean we don't have a clue as to how this whole health care thing is going to turn out. I can think of all kinds of bills that either passed or didn't pass or legislation that was passed or repealed that didn't turn out to hurt or help as much as anybody thought it could or would. Who wrote that article by the way, Glen Beck? LOL

Freddie McDonald: LOL, now that would be news, Glenn Beck writing an article for the New York Times!

(at this point his staunch libertarian friend joins the conversation)

Garry Shitstain Leavy: That would never happen, Glenn back isn't a liberal scumbag! BTW are you the one that fired a shot at Rep. Eric Cantor's (R) office Kelly? LOL

Kelly [Redacted]: Well, I've only read a few things on the health care bill and the health care debate but what I do know doesn't seem nearly as horrible as everybody is saying. I mean the way things seem to go today is like this. A guy with no insurance gets the sniffles, doesn't go to the Dr. Then the sniffles turn into a cold which turns into pneumonia and the next thing you know is guy with no insurance ends up in the emergency room, where I'm pretty sure he cannot be turned away, he is treated and his bill is now $2,000 which he also will never pay, the hospital writes it off as a loss and therefore reduces their tax liability by $700. Doesn't it make more sense to cure the sniffles for $50 then to cure them for $700? Either way it eats into our tax base. And didn't they have the same fears in Great Britian and Canada when they "socialized" their medical system? That seems to be working out OK and seems to be the model of what we are shooting for? But what do I know I'm just a tree hugging Left Coast liberal.

Garry Shitstain Leavy: Did you really say Britain and Canada are doing just fine? LMFAO! Let's educate Kelly! 1. They're both BROKE! 2. This bill doesn't even HAVE a public option like the countries you mentioned! 3. It is UNCONSTITUTIONAL to force Americans to buy something from a private company which is exactly what this bill does! Read something other than whatever liberal rag you get every morning and expand your universe. Jesus!"

Freddie McDonald: I hope ur right kk but don't think so! Also, I seen some of those trees u hug! They got some nice tits! Lmao! I grew up with KK in high school n college Boo! You peel off that liberal layer and he's not bad! Lol But also, I just like to know if this healthcare bill is so good, why did congress and all the administration opt out of it? Shouldn't they lead by example?

Kelly [Redacted]: Hey, no I agree. The guys who create the laws and pass the bills and therefore make the rules, they seem to always get whatever they want and you are right, that isn't good. There is a double standard and that does need to stop, if you are in Congress you are still an American citizen and you should abide by the same rules that everybody else does. And just so you know Gary, I was a republican when I was in the Army and when I got out and was living in Chicago. I voted for Bush in '88. But once I moved out West I slowly turned into a Democrat. I voted for Clinton twice, Bush Jr. once, and then Democrat ever since and probably for life. Living on the West Coast surrounded by forests that you want to see kept around and an Ocean that you want to see kept swimmable can do that to you. But hey I gotta run, there is a pinetree waiting for me in the lobby with some beautiful limbs and a nice set of pinecones waiting to take me to lunch!

Freddie McDonald: I guess I would turn liberal too if I had all those pinecones and pussywillows around me constantly! Lmao!"

Garry Shitstain Leavy: Me too! If I lived in "Everyone should love everyone and be happy" land! LMFAO

(At this point I go back to work thinking this conversation is done, I go and run some errands and while out I get this from Gary who apparently has started drinking)

Garry Shitstain Leavy: Where'd ya go Kelly? BTW. Sorry I assumed you had a vagina because of your name. But obviously you would still suck dick. Obama's at least! LMFAO! Douche bag!"

Kelly [Redacted]: Gary, is that were you are taking this, really? Is this the road that we are going down? Look, I'm sorry I ever joined in the debate. Were all friends here. I'm pretty sure there is no need to start attacking each other personally. Have a good night buddy.

Garry Shitstain Leavy: Friends? Not you and I at least! Take your tree hugging liberal bullshit some where else away from me "Kelly"! You are part of the death of this nation for my kids and my grand children! So... Thanks for that!

(OK, so now I'm getting fucking pissed, I debate all day every day for a living. 90% of my clients don't want to invest right now because they think Obama is going to turn our nation into a communist Russia or worse, while having some tree hugging liberal clients at one branch my other branch consists of military and ex-military, America loving, God fearing, Fox watching, 100% white as the driven snow, clients who may or may not be racist although I'm often shocked at how freely the "N" word is used at my desk. So if this guy wants to debate I'll debate and if he wants to get ugly then fuck it, let's get ugly)

Kelly [Redacted]: Typical republican, when you clearly aren't intelligent or informed enough to have a debate like a real man you start to either attack people personally or turn violent. Who is the douche now?

Garry Shitstain Leavy: You're the douche that thinks your savior passed some sort of socialized healthcare! LOL Read the bill ya retard! And by the way, I'm a Libertarian! Not Republican! So suck my dick you "Give all the freeloaders shit for free" public entitlement fuck! You're kind disgusts me! You are the cancer of this nation!"

(At this point my buddy jumps back into the fray to try to create some levity.)

Freddie McDonald: Can't we all just get along? Lmao! You two love birds have fun! I have a hottie coming over and were going to create our own healthcare bill! ;) LOL

(and then later adds)

Freddie McDonald: In this corner we have Gary "strap a panda on my Suv and drive thru a gay pride parade" LeVault vs Kelly "flying in his learjet across country to give a speech on energy conservation" [Redacted]! LMAO! Now that's some funny shit no matter who you are! Lol"

(I'm driving home at this point and can't really type anything)

Garry Shitstain Leavy: LMFAO

(Now I'm home and I click on his photo to see who I'm dealing with. He's my age, 70 pounds overweight, bald, incredibly unappealing double chin, I flip through his pictures, lots of cartoons of Obama with a hitler moustache, etc., this guy is a teabagger in more ways than one)

Kelly [Redacted]: Gary, you crack me up man. You are so lost it's not even funny. You really don't have a clue. You probably have no problem that half of our tax dollars are going to fight a war that is most likely as unwinnable as Vietnam. Under Clinton we were running massive budget surpluses and now we are running massive defecits, mostly thanks to George Bush. And now as a result about 25% of our tax dollars just go to service the debt. And BTW I've probalby paid more taxes this year than you've paid in the last 10. If anybody should be a Republican it should be me. But I'm not, and I'm not because altough Republicans preach small government it never happens under their watch, they expand the government everytime with corporate welfare, tax breaks for the rich, cold wars, nuclear missle programs, etc. So again, if you want to debate we can debate but if you want to get personal we can go that route too, I just checked out your pictures and you are a pretty easy target my friend. But I'm giving you one final chance to be a human being and then, ya know, I can get pretty fucking vindictive myself.

Kelly [Redacted]: And by the way it was Bush who approved and began TARP and other economic recovery programs (more free dollars for corporate America) which is now in the 10's of trillions probably more than this health bill will ever cost, so what do you have to say about that? Somehow I'm sure you are going to blame the current regime right?

Garry Shitstain Leavy:You saw shit ya hippie! Whatever you have, bring it! Fact is, when tax breaks happen, business grows, hence they hire more people! Isn't that what America is calling for right now?! Not healthcare! Not cap and tax?! Jobs! How dare you bring up Reagan! You should be convicted for treason! You're what I spend a good part of my time protecting my daughters from! By the way? How many kids you got?

Kelly [Redacted]: Hippie? Sheesh, that's a good one. Trickle down economics, so that's your plan? We'll we've had that now for about 30 years, if you had a lick of knowledge you would probably know that Obama hasn't raised any taxes on anybody yet but probably should, and if you ever took an econ course you would know that there is a natural 35 year business cycle at play here and that we are in the midst of a recovery, and if you ever did some reading you would know that the stock market recovers first then the economy and then lastly the unemployment rate as the stock market is a LEADING indicator and the jobless rate is a LAGGING indicator. And so since corporate tax rates are already historically low and they are still not hiring then what is your solution then for that, there, Warren Buffet of Schiller Park? And as far as kids go, because I'm still trying to be diplomatic with your retarded ass to see if you actually know anything, instad of saying the only kids that I know that I have for sure are the two that live in your home, instead I'm going to say, nunya. And lastly, trust me, if you ever find yourself unemployed it won't be because the economy is bad but because you sir are an asshole.

Garry Shitstain Leavy: Do you have a life? And the best part is no matter how you wake up tomorrow your name will still be "Kelly". LMFAO! Follow me on Twitter too ya faggot! @reverendsoupcan LOL Liberals! LOL

Kelly [Redacted]: Dude, I could bust your balls for being overweight, for being bald, for having a double chin, but still I'm not going to sink to your level, I'm just going to feel sorry for you, you will probably wake up someday lonely and miserable because nobody who doesn't agree with all of your inane positions in life will want to have anything to do with you, I have plenty of Republican friends and we can have normal debates but you have to take it to a shitty place because let's face it, you aren't smart enough or educated enough to debate me like a man, because inside you are a very scared, little child who's mamma didn't hug him enough or something when he was a little boy, and ya know it's scumbags like you that use the world faggot that are 150% morely likely to go online and check out gay porn, that's a scientific fact, look into it, so before you hop onto youporn tonight just try to keep it on the "straight" side ok there? And good luck in life with that attitude, there is karma in this world and I don't wish this on anyone but it's likely that you will soon end up unemployed and you will be looking for a handout, some free healthcare for one of your (our) kids, wic, foodstamps, unemployment, all those dirty little socialist programs designed to help those in need but I hope by then that none of those programs exist, or maybe you get seriously hurt on the job or have a heart attack and can't work, I'm telling you man, the Universe doles good and bad out perfectly to those who deserve it, so then maybe at this point you might have some compassion for the guy who fell down on his luck, but whatever dude I'm done with you , you've got nothing

(turns out this dude has been unemployed for about 6 months now and he does something in the healthcare field, not sure what but from the conversation we're having I'm guessing hospital janitor)

Garry Shitstain Leavy: If I ever see you, friend Freds from high school or not, I will knock your fuckin' teeth down you're throat you fuckin' shit talkin' asshole! Wait for it bitch! You fuck! Oh! And was that what you were waiting for nigger lover? Me to lose it? You're a fuckin' Nazi and you can live with that! But I promise you ass licker! If I ever fuckin' meet you face to face I will shove my cock down your throat.

Kelly [Redacted]: Dude, bring it on anytime. I will get in a ring with you anytime, I will take the gloves off anytime. But a douchebag like you I'm sure will come packing heat (cause I know you Libertarians loves your guns) or bring a shiv or a bunch of your Libertarian buddies. I have no doubt I could kick your ass, you'd be winded after 30 seconds are you kidding me? I'll call you before I come to town, Fred you can referee. LOL, douchebag, like I said, peace out, ya got nothing.

Freddie McDonald: While you two keep arguing over something neither one of you can control, I am with a sexy woman! Whose the smartest of them all? LOL I win.. You both would actually like each other if you met. Well maybe before you two starting getting personal? who knows but its time for me to end this crap.. I am removing this post.. Later.

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Editors Note
The scariest thing about this dialogue is the realization that there's only 3 degrees of separation between me and this mouth breather.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Cool Guys Don't Look at Explosions

They turn around and walk away.

Drunk & Dumber

The following story is 93% true. The other 7% was fabricated or omitted to protect the guilty and make me look cooler than I really am. Names have been altered to protect me from potential lawsuits.

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The male doesn't age as we think. In fact, he doesn't age at all. He assimilates, placates and slows, accepts the reality around him and plays what he's told to play. But just a little bit deeper, a scratch below the mask, he's eighteen-to-thirty forever, and every now and again, in the right combination of circumstances, with the right mix of triggers or enticements, that selfish, single minded monkey will break out and escape the cage. And flowing from his greed, gluttony or vice, or a combination of the three at once, a trail of damage will follow. But he'll never be directly blamed. It'll all be collateral damage, the sort of thing that happens when you lock the animal down too tightly, rob him of natural releases.

- PhilaLawyer

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Let's all get drunk tonight.
I hope I don't fight with a punk tonight.
Let's all get high tonight.
Maybe nobody will die tonight.
Let's all pack yay tonight.
I hope I don't go back to jail tonight.
Let's all hit the club tonight.
Find a woman that wanna make love tonight.

Let's get dumb, drink some rum.
Make my teeth and gums feel real numb.
We'll be thinkin’ 'bout survivin’
while we're drinkin’ and we're drivn’.
Hope I don't wreck when my vision gets blurry.
Sober up lookin’ at an all white jury.
Judge don't like no drunk like me.
Punk might give me strike number three.

Cuz when I'm drunk and when I'm high
I don't give a damn 'bout a DUI.
Let's just get lit, dance like a nitwit,
try to talk to the women that we can't get with.
Me and my staff make everybody laugh
If the beer runs out, we can all go half.
It's Friday night. Got the perfect weather.
C’mon fellas lets get drunk together.


- AfroMan

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2:45 a.m…

That’s me in the corner of the hot tub, doing my best impression of a bowling ball with arms wrapped around my knees. My legs are logs of jello and my back is in knots, fighting the jets pounding it into submission. Having spent the past 21 hours on my feet, skiing deep pow on top of Blackcomb and partying in the village, I’ve managed to ride the momentum and a nice buzz into to this warm corner. But I’m starting to hit a wall. I have to muster up all the strength I can just to keep from sinking to the bottom. The steam has fogged up the living room glass next to us. Trickles of perspiration roll down the glass, clearing up streams of visibility, allowing me to catch a zebra patterned glimpse of what the boys inside are up to. I reach around the tub, grab some snow, and nail B who’s trying to take a picture of us.

“You guys look so fuckin’ gay!”

I wonder why. I look around. Wow, 8 dudes in a 4 man hot tub. OK, maybe this does look a little gay. I take inventory. With the exception of Jake, I’ve known everyone here for over a decade, 15 to 20 years in some cases. What I do know about Jake is enough to put him on par with most of the crew. To my right are Alan and Tom, beach boys I’ve been ballin’ with since college. I met Alan the first day of my freshman year. To my left is James who I met when he was 17, dancing and pulling chicks at Pier 70 with a fake ID. Next to him sits Kevin, the tragic romantic who occasionally contributes to this blog and quite possibly the unluckiest guy on the planet. Then there’s Jake on the opposite corner, Mikey’s bro from SanDiego. Mikey, my main dawg, sits across from me and Kyle, the Owen Wilson-esque Republican intellectual, sits to his left.

Inside is James’s older brother Josh, a comrade from the original rave days circa 1991. Dave who now lives in Cali is from the old Boeing days. He calls me the hub. Borax the infamous Afghan trouble maker was in Kane’s fraternity and Kane, well, he’s my brother. I met Caden at the house parties in the early 90’s and now we’re here for his bachelor party. I’m the best man.

I think about B’s gay comment. Nope, nothing but stable cats here. I’m confident of this. I’m wrong.

I hear the deck door slam and look up in time to see Alvin running towards the hot tub with a huge bottle of red wine, bouncing on his tippy toes to minimize contact with the snow. He slips and trips into the tub, somehow managing to twist his body and keep the bottle upright and above water. He pops out of the water like Shamu, holds the bottle of wine with a Hitler salute, and screams:

“We’re so fucked. You wanna know how fucked we are? I’ll show you!”

He brings the bottle to his lips and I assume he’s going to chug the whole thing as a dramatic testament to how “fucked” we are; a meaningless gesture which I assume somehow only makes sense to him at this moment. He surprises me. He just takes a tiny sip and silently lowers the bottle from his mouth. He stares into the abyss, as if the sip of wine has suddenly filled him with a profound epiphany. He’s standing in the hot tub, steam slowly rising from his rotund belly like curls of smoke.

After a pregnant pause, the beach boys in my corner lose it. We start laughing uncontrollably at his anti-climactic gesture, intended to prove how “fucked” we were.

Tom: “Oh no, the cops are coming.”
Alan: “We’re all going to jail.”
Me: “Just arrest us right now and get it over with.”

Alvin's gone. Booze & god knows what else have replaced the high IQ and quick wit with a bovine gaze, slurred speech, and fried logic circuits. I’ve seen that look before and I know exactly what it means. He’s going to jail or getting his ass kicked.

He repeats the same 3 phrases over and over again.

“This is so gay.” (enraged)

“We’re so fucked.” (morose)

“This is so fun.” (jovial)

Mikey, ever the instigator, begins to pick up on Alvin's internal conflict and insecurity regarding his proximity to a group of half clothed males and decides to exacerbate his turmoil. He slaps Alvin’s ass and claims that Kevin did it. Then he performs fake oral on an unwilling Alvin as video cameras roll around us. He grabs Alvin from behind and squeezes his fat folds together, creating a fake vagina and asking the audience “Who wants to fuck this?”

Jake seems pleased by the fact that this fiasco is being immortalized on film. “This is so awesome. My wife’s gonna be so pumped when she sees this.” I’m the only one who can relate, the only one who laughs.

Finally, when Kevin opens a condom in the tub I decide I’ve had enough and bolt out. Kyle and a couple of other sane guys do the same. I go upstairs to change. Kane passes out in our room. Just as I’m putting on some dry shorts, a heard of elephants stampedes through the hallway followed by a sound as iconic and ubiquitous as the national anthem: baritone yells of cheer and astonishment only drunk males can produce.

I quickly get dressed and step out the room only to be greeted by quite possibly one of the strangest and most disturbing sights I have ever seen. Mikey is running out of his room buck naked with a look of terror and amusement on his face. Alvin is chasing him. He’s looks all business. Mike circles back into the bathroom that leads to his bedroom hoping to lose his maniacal pursuer. My CPU goes into overdrive, trying to make sense what I just saw. Finally, I decide that I need to forget about the whole thing before I fry the motherboard.

Just breathe.

I go downstairs to find out what’s going on only. Before I can open my mouth I hear a rumpling behind me and turn to see Alvin and his naked quarry rolling down the stairs in a blurry heap of denim and flesh. The situation is quickly getting out of hand. Mikey runs upstairs while Alvin walks around with his arms raised, confident that dragging a naked guy out of bed and rolling down the stairs with him has definitely earned him some cool points in the alternate universe in which his mind currently resides. His next mistake puts him in the pantheon of poor bastards who get fucked up and then fuck up.

When I was a kid, we used to go swimming at Buffalo Bayou in Houston. There were some cliffs that we used to dive into the Bayou. Then there was Bradley’s drop. A 90 foot cliff that no one ever dared jump from. It got its name from the last poor soul who decided to jump off of it and died 2 days later from internal injuries. We used to sit at the top of it every day, eating sandwiches, joking, and laughing. It was something we were very close to and spent a lot of time with. But it was also a line we never crossed.(1)

I once saw Caden punch a guy so hard the poor bastard spent 30 seconds spitting out tooth after tooth like a tic-tac factory. I spent my freshman year in college as a scout team running back, getting reamed on a daily basis by an NCAA record breaking defense that sent 10 out of 11 starters to the NFL. None of those guys scare me like Caden does.


Alvin decides to test Caden, the 6’6, 245 Lb groom whose coming nuptials we’re here to celebrate. Caden is buzzed and regal sitting in his leather chair, enjoying the antics and tomfoolery of his subjects. However, he’s still quick enough to grab Alvin’s wrists as he reaches for his neck for a choke move. The expression of shock on his face gradually changes to a smile as he begins playfully punching Alvin in the face with his own fists, a move only reserved for pre-k nieces and nephews. Eventually, like a cat who gets tired of playing with his prey, he tosses the 230 lb Alvin to the side to focus on something more interesting. Alvin makes a second attempt to grab Heavy-C, only be tossed aside again, slightly quicker and more violently than the first time.

“OK, it’s over. It’s totally over.” Alvin gasps as he slowly peels himself off the floor.

Then, before he’s completely upright, he lunges at Caden one last time. This time C doesn’t bother catching, absorbing, and throwing him. He just pops him in the chest with an open palm, instantly sending Alvin’s legs into the air as he crashes onto the hardwood with a rumbling thud.

As the organizer of the party, and with my brother covering the damage deposit for the rental house, I become concerned about potential damage and tell Alvin to knock it off.

“It’s Caden! It’s ALL Caden!” he shouts. Apparently unaware that we’ve all been privy to front row seats in his well deserved ass kicking.

Caden, realizing that Alvin is the best entertainment around begins instigating a 2nd attack on the naked sleeping Mike.

“Dude, that guy totally owned you. You just got punked by a naked guy. I can’t believe you’re gonna let him get away with that shit.”

Even sensible me couldn’t help but feel a trickle of joy and anticipation at the prospect of watching Alvin launch a 2nd attack on Mikey.

After a moment spent pondering the situation, Alvin slowly gets off the floor and begins walking up the stairs to the roar of a cheering crowd. I start humming “Eye of the Tiger” and soon everyone else joins in. The sight of a long single file line of grown men walking up the stairs humming the Rocky soundtrack and pumping their fists at 3:00 a.m. must have looked pretty ugly but I couldn’t help but enjoy the humor and sheer ludicrosity (I made that word up) of the situation. B’s got his camcorder rolling. I catch Dave’s eye. He’s laughing and shaking his head like “here we go again”. This can’t be good.

What the fuck are you doing?

Mikey is nowhere to be found. He’s not in his bed or anywhere else upstairs for that matter. Alvin directs his search to our room where Kane’s already sleeping. After a cursory search he decides to start threatening my sleeping brother.

“Are you hiding Mike? You’re next dude!”

I get in the way and try to ease him out of our room. He pushes me. I catch myself on the bed and plow into him, chucking him out of the room. He acts like I’ve just high-fived him, laughs, and continues his search.

Finally someone spots Mikey hiding under the covers in Alan’s top bunk. Alvin starts climbing the bunk ladder. Mikey throws him off. THUNK! Alvin lands most ungracefully with his head hitting the railing on the bottom bunk. He climbs up again and pulls the covers off Mike. Unfortunately (or fortunately for Alvin) Mike’s still naked. This seems to give Alvin the extra motivation he needs to make it to the top bunk. Captain Jack Sparrow fights the defending soldiers and finally boards the the naval vessel "Rainbow Dreams".

They start grappling again and in one of the most infamous, controversial, mysterious, and hilarious moments in the history of wrestling, Alvin decides that the most prudent move would be to twist and turn his back to Mike, giving a new and most literal meaning to the term “Rear Naked Choke”. Randy Couture would be proud. Now Mikey is not a small guy to begin with, but he’s got the size to strength ratio of a chimp with downs syndrome. The guy is freakishly strong. And once he has Alvin locked in the “lusty spoon” it is over.

B’s got his camcorder rolling at the foot of the bunk and he’s doing his best to taunt and enrage the trapped Alvin.

“Way to give up the booty on the first date.”

“For Christ’s sake please control your male lust.”

“Shouldn’t you kiss him first before offering him your cock-holster?”

“Go ahead Mikey. Dig deep. See if you can find some oil.”

Finally, Alvin looks down at the foot of the bed, sees B and his camcorder, and the reality that he’s being video taped spooning with a naked man penetrates his foggy brain. In a last effort to free himself he begins thrashing and bucking like a trapped wolverine. Mike’s arms are a steel trap. Alvin doesn’t stand a chance. He eventually stops struggling. Panting and hissing his words with no breath left, he gasps his infamous line of the night. “This is so gay.”

We’re going to hell.

With no other options left, he decides to turn the tables on Mike and see if he can shame him into gaining his freedom back. He reaches behind him and starts fondling Mike’s bulbous buttocks.

“Is this what you wanted? Why didn’t you say so? If I knew you wanted me to play with your man-pleaser I would have done it a long time ago.”

Now it’s Mike’s turn to go wild. He brings his knees under him, rendering his corn-hole out of Alvin’s reach. Then he starts slamming Alvin’s head into the wall. If it wasn’t for Alvin’s jeans, I’d swear Mikey was hitting that ass. The rickety bunk is whining and cracking under their combined weights and Mike’s power thrusts. I’m supporting the frame with all my strength to keep it from shattering and sending the violent lovers to the floor, more out of concern for Kane’s damage deposit than the clowns safety.

Eventually Alvin concedes defeat and promises to leave Mike alone if he lets him go. However, it's becoming painfully obvious that he isn't going to crash anytime soon. He's a Tasmanian Daredevil bouncing off the walls and the sleep we all desperately need is in jeopardy. With the exception of Kane & Mike everyone else is back downstairs. Kevin is glued to the couch so I lean in ask him where he stashes his meds. We exchange whispers and I'm bounding up the stairs. Black bag, front pocket, prescription bottle, pink & white pills. I come back with a Xanax and a pain killer.

"OK Buddy, open your mouth."

He doesn't ask. He doesn't hesitate. He doesn't resist. Down the hatch and into the belly.

A few minutes later I find B standing in the Kitchen with a evil smile on his face.

"What's up?”

"I think he's about to go down."

Alvin is standing in the living room giving a speech that no one is listening to.

"Dude, he's not a darted Rhino. He's not gonna fall down like a chopped tree. He'll probably just get sleepy and go to bed."

B disagrees. He bets Josh on when and how Alvin's going down. I don't have the patience to stand around and find out. The 8 hours of non-stop skiing in deep powder with no lunch break combined with a long night of partying in the village have left me drained. I borrow a Xanax from Kevin and for only the 2nd time in my life I wash it down with some tea and hit the sack.(2)

I fall asleep to the sounds of distant laughter.

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8:40 a.m…

I wake up to the sounds of distant laughter. K’s gone. What the fuck! Why is anyone up at this hour? My mouth tastes like a whorehouse. I wonder if I’m the only one who needs to punch himself in the nuts just to get out of bed.

As I head down the stairs I recognize B’s giggle. He looks up from his laptop and flashes that bulletproof Afghan smile.

“C’mere dude. Check out these vids from last night.”

I sit on the couch and watch last night’s debauchery replayed before my eyes. The bunk bed scene can ruin careers and destroy lives. I laugh anyway.

I look at Caden, who’s been a mentor of sorts for me in advanced photography.

“You know … I was thinking … if you’re taking a picture of 9 dudes in a hot tub, you should never have to worry about motion blur. Right?”

He pumps his arms in the air like he’s at a rave. We both laugh a hearty chuckle.

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9:50 a.m…

Alvin’s the last one out of bed. He limps out of his room with both hands covering his head while I’m getting ready to give the guys who didn’t ski yesterday a ride to Blackcomb. The thunderous applause that greets him does little to change the expression on his face, no doubt antagonizing the two rams who are currently battling over breeding rights in his skull.

“Good morning champ! What do you want for breakfast? We got hard boiled balls and fried man ass prepared especially for you.”

“What the fuck happened last night? Why do I have all these scratches on my arms? And what’s with all these bumps on my head?”

Mike and I share a knowing look and a silent smile. B shows Alvin his theatrical debut in soft-core gay porn.

“aaaaaaaahhh … Fuck my life.”

As I’m carrying the last of my gear into the xTerra I hear Mikey, negotiator supreme:

“B, Alvin and I will split your bill here if you delete that video.”

Another round of baritone laughter erupts, muffled mid-life as I close the door and fading further away as I walk down the driveway. I climb the bumper to my ski rack and suck in the morning sun rays.

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(1) I’ve jumped a couple cliffs of that magnitude in my adult life but back then, in my little Junior High psyche, you might as well have asked me to jump off Mt. Rainier.

(2) Ironically, I later found out that Alvin actually calmed down (surprise) and became more lucid once the meds hit him. He even made a comment along the lines of "I think I did some inappropriate things." and then went to bed.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Austin Pilot's Suicide letter

I don't know if you heard about the Austin Pilot who flew his plane into an IRS building. The media gave it very little coverage, and fox news all but completely ignored it. Anyway, you should check out his suicide letter. It's VERY interesting.

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2010/0218102stack1.html

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Facebook Hurts

[NAME REDACTED] April 9, 2009

Not sure if this is the Ardi I would have known, but does the name [NAME REDACTED] sound familair?

Just curious....



Ardi Mekanik April 10, 2009

My freshman year in college I fell in love. She was a beautiful vixen, athletic, curvy, with hair that smelled like summer and toxic eyes bluer than the deepest ocean. They looked green when she was angry or serious.

I met her out one night with friends. She had a boyfriend at the time. She wouldn't let me kiss her. But I knew we had something. 2 weeks later she called and said she's coming over. We went out to dinner and she told me she broke up with her boyfriend. My 19 year old mind wasn't smart enough to worry about this being a pattern. I was just glad she was single as she fell asleep in my arms.

She knew how to love and when she gave herself she gave all of herself. Fully. Honestly. No holding back.

I was young and untamed. She tolerated my immaturity, infidelity, and selfish idiocy for a year. Eventually she found someone better and moved on.

The last time we spoke she told me she was getting married. I told her I was happy for her. I meant it. I told her I would love to attend the wedding. She said she didn't think it would be appropriate. I wished her well. We never spoke again. That was 15 years ago.

I've only been in love 3 times. She was one of them.

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That [NAME REDACTED]? ummmmm ... no ... I don't think I remember her.

Monday, January 11, 2010

The Real Enemy

Our real enemies are not those living in a distant land whose names or policies we don't understand; The real enemy is a system that wages war when it's profitable, the CEOs who lay us off our jobs when it's profitable, the Insurance Companies who deny us Health care when it's profitable, the Banks who take away our homes when it's profitable. Our enemies are not several hundred thousands away. They are right here in front of us

- Mike Prysner

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Sage Advice

'Maul her,' he said.

'What?' I said.

'Wait until she has to go to the bathroom. After about a minute, go by the entrance. When she comes out, just maul her.'

He went back to eating. He said it like he was explaining where the frozen food section in the grocery store was located. I got the feeling my interaction with Rob was going to be short - i.e,. he didn't seem like he was dying to talk to me about something he considered obvious - so I lasered in and demanded he proffer more information.

'What do you mean?'

'She comes out, grab her by the back of the head and kiss her. Push her up against a wall if there's one. Just maul her.'

I laughed. This was sexual assault. He was fucking with me. Right?

'What if she freaks out?'

'There's a fifty-fifty chance she'll smack you. But anybody would play those odds in Vegas.'

Then he winked and went back to work on his penne.

- From Going To The Maul by Bill Dawes

Monday, January 4, 2010

Where have all the cowboys gone?

Three-line ad from the London Times, December 29, 1913:

Men wanted for hazardous journey, small wages, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness, constant danger, safe return doubtful, honour and recognition in case of success.

5000 volunteers queued up in response to this advertisement, posted by Ernest Shackleton seeking crewmen for his Antarctic expedition.

Friday, December 18, 2009

Dennis

I love small indie movies like this. This one does a fantastic job of garnering empathy and exposing depth on a character type that is typically cast aside as an ogre, goon, or background muscle.

Dennis is an introverted body builder who finally works up the courage to ask a girl out and go out on date with her despite guilt trips by his mother.

Obamas Speech at the Nobel Prize Ceremony in Oslo

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